23 July 2014

Extroverted AND Shy- why yes, we do exist!

I was floating around the facebook world the other day and spotted an interesting article that an acquaintance of mine had posted about being both extroverted and shy- I was so intrigued because that is how I feel most of the time, at least most recently.

I've always been categorized in my personality testings as an outgoing person- and why yes, I do like to be the center of attention, love acting/singing in shows and plays, and have absolutely no problem speaking my mind or point, but in reality I'm actually pretty shy..

I usually only have 2-3 close friends at once and it can take me some to open up to them, honestly it takes me time to open up to anyone. I'm keep very much to myself in every personal way, including wtih my family. And if I had the choice I would gladly sit at home all weekend without talking to a another soul. I love my alone time- choose it over anything else, but when I need to I can entertain and host just about anyone. I could talk to a wall if I wanted to and have never had a problem keeping a conversation going.

Of the 18 points in the article only a few didn't relate to how I feel- the last one really hit home though.  "18. It’s taken you years to figure out that you’re shy. Literal years. And when you tell people, even your closest family members, that you’re “actually just shy” they pause, and then their eyes go big, and they go: “Oh my god you so are.” "- It is just in the last few years that I have realized I am shy- that I like to keep to myself, and when I have mentioned it to family and friends, their reactions are so similar- "yeah, you are a private person" , "yep, I don't really know too too much about you"

I find it so strange that we do find the need to categorize ourselves- but what if we don't have a category, and why do we need to be in one? As a get older I am finding it easier and easier to except who I am, and that it is okay to be me. To have one or two close friends and that's all. Be comfortable sitting at home all day and not talking to anyone- that makes me happy, and isn't that the point? And that's not saying some days I don't spend the whole day out with friends or family or chatting with strangers and that doesn't make me happy but I'm not always outgoing and if I want to keep things to myself (most of me to myself) then I will.

I am me and there is no one else I would rather be.

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  1. I, too, saw this article and found it interesting. It's exactly how I am too! So crazy!

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